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December 2012

Jumping for Joy That Today Is Not Yesterday

 The other day, on 12/12/12 I had a glorious glorious exciting day - I managed/officiated one wedding in the late afternoon and then was off to Officiate at another wedding held in Rockefeller Plaza that night. Marrying two gorgeous ladies from San Francisco and then literally standing among the angels marrying two grooms from North Carolina just awhile later, was probably just about the best way I could've thought to spend a day that was said to be a turning point in the world. Not quite the end of the world, but a day to change ones mind so maybe that the end of the world doesn't become as inevitable as it sometimes seems.

And yet just a day and a half later, there was tragedy - evil stalked a school in Connecticut and killed nearly 30 people, 22 of them have been reported to be children between the ages of 5 and 10.

NewtonBLOGI had spent most of the day without the TV on and although I was checking email, I wasn't really paying attention to Facebook or the news sites that I have bookmarked. It was a stung shock when I turned the TV on to watch "General Hospital" (let's just put a pin in that revelation and address it another day, OK?) and discovered the tragedy that had occurred that morning.

As is everyone, I am beyond sadness and anger at the continued violence that plagues our country. I didn't think my heart could break into any more pieces until I heard what looked to me to be an 8 year old saying on the news that he "made it out alive". An 8 year old should never have to utter  those words. Ever.

We can't go to a school, a movie theater, a political rally, a church without wondering that maybe today will be the day that evil visits.

Because it is evil that stalks what we have always considered safe places turning them into temples of fear.

We must push back. I'm not sure gun control laws or stricter mental health guidelines are enough. But as the memes say, it's easier to get to a gun than mental health care in America today. That might be a good place for us to start.

But more importantly, we must simply start to think differently.

It's not enough to hand wring, it's up to all of us to do the work to make a change that will stop this insanity.

That means taking a hard long look at how we live our lives. And it's not just for us 'the people', but for politicians and heads of state too.
To those in the political spotlight, if the only way that you can stay in the national conversation is to blame the hurricane/shooting/earthquake on the gays/lack of religion/President, then you are a pretty sad politician, an even worse American and a useless human being. And next time, maybe show just a tiny sliver of compassion for the dead and wait for your judgment for oh, I don't know, maybe 24 or 48 hours. Then you can spray your crazy all over the place if that's what you have to do. "No comment" IS an answer.
But for the rest of us, we have a kind of enormous task ahead of us - how to re-value life.  How do we change our thinking from "me me me" to "us us us"? I think, when your point of view that 'we're all in this together", you're less likely to want to mow people down with a couple Glocks (or whatever they were) you got from your mom.

Like with Aurora, I woke up today, Saturday, hoping yesterday had been just a dream. I even clicked my heels a few times. But damn, that didn't work. I'm hoping for a better outcome tomorrow.... and I'm sure you are too.