This Sunday, June 19 is Father's Day and many of my friends are now starting to lose their parents.
But I lost my father, Jack, to cancer in 1981 when I was 17.
As we were close when I was young, his death has, so far, haunted me all my adult life ...and I suspect it always will.
However, I take great JOY in knowing that I inherited many of his best traits and thankfully not too many of his 'bad' ones. :)
Father's Day hasn't really meant much to me since he passed. I prefer to mark the day he died (Oct 22) with a day of doing "Jack" things - doing things that we would have done if he were still alive - like going to a museum and/or eating chocolate ice cream. Simple pleasures, sure, but a way to sort of share the day with him one day a year.
So this weekend, if your father is still alive, be sure to reach out to him and spend the day doing what he wants to do.
But, if your father isn't alive, consider spending the day doing "Jack" things, i.e. things that your own father would like to do if it were just a normal Sunday in the middle of June. That might be going fishing, that might be fine dining, or that may just be laying in a hammock in the backyard. Trust me, doing your own version of "Jack" things will make you feel closer to your dad. It has, at least, for me.
To the left is a picture of a picture of my dad that hung in his bedroom throughout my childhood. I can't remember how old he is, but he sure is young and full of life, ready to explore the world. That's how I like to think of him.